There is something powerful about turning a noun into a verb when we are describing our current experience. For example: rather than “I am tense” say “I am tensing.” From “I am worried to I am worrying” From “I am hurt to I am hurting.” Can you feel the difference? It is just a subtle way of taking back our own power, the power to make things new. Especially when others are involved. In the moment, it is easy to blame our experience on ‘them’. When we do, the balance of power shifts and we are at their mercy.
We may have been victimized, but we are never victims, by definition. Our healing comes from standing in our own light and declaring what is true in the moment. If we can shift from what they are doing to how we are creating our own experience of it, we have made a great leap! We cannot change another person but if we can get clear about our personal reaction, turn it into a verb, we will be in a position to decide how to proceed.
A woman said to me once about how she got the courage to leave an abusive relationship “I just got so tired of beating myself up.” You see the distinction from “being beaten” ? We often speak about Being and Doing, the dual aspects of our human life. Our sense of who we are is the Being and how we translate that into action is the Doing. Victims act like victims, etc. But in our spiritual practice we learn to re-identify ourselves as the incarnation and expression of Intelligence and Love. Working with that image, our actions will reflect our conviction. We will cease to point fingers to blame anyone or anything for our experience. Instead of laying blame, we activate our power.
Try this: I am causing my own happiness. I am causing my own abundance. I am causing my own health. I am loving my Being into loving Doing.”
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